Are we messed up about sex?
You put a group of people together and tell them to have sex with each other, but each person has been told, trained, influenced, all in different ways about this subject. We have left the animal instinct of sex behind. We now live in a society that defines sex and how we think about it.
Where does our sexual attitudes come from? Obviously we are influenced by every day people, our media, our loved ones, definitely the people who raised us, so how much control and opinions are of our own?
In 1938, Alfred Kinsey began gathering case histories of sexual behaviour. In 1940, Kinsey and his staff collected over 18,000 interviews, and published Sexual Behaviour in the Human Male in 1948 and Sexual Behaviour in the Human Female in 1953. With all this research, people started to learn about sexual behaviour and where they stood among the masses. Introducing an ongoing exploration of our own sexuality, through out the times of change, have we strayed from asking the questions and just assuming that what we were taught or experienced, is just that of our own norm? Do we stay comfortable with what we know and leave it at that?
Sex, being a large part of our lives, when you think about it, does it not control how we think, feel, act and portray ourselves to others? Our sex, as in gender has separated us through eras. Our sexual preferences have us turning from one situation to another. Our sexual attitudes on a personal level influence how we deal with each experience.
We all seem to be doing a lot about nothing, talking very little about what we want to share. We take our little attitudes and secret desires and sneak them into the corners of our lives, hoping someone will understand, make sense of and play along. It is not common to discuss fantasies with your mate, friends, co-workers, although done, how detailed and truthful are they. Have you asked your partner questions about sex? Is there the whole discussion? And if this happens, was this a comfortable thing to share?
As free as we are to express ourselves, do we express ourselves sexually without judgement? Society as a whole has us dancing through fire as it is, so keep your clothes on, your mind clean and don’t tell us what you are doing behind closed doors unless you are on Oprah and there is a scandal involved. In this day and time, is there the shush factor? Are we as open- minded as we think we are? Or do we have more to judge than times past?