What really happens behind closed doors or in the dark corners of a park for some, really is a private matter.
What happens if the sexual desires of your partner are off the charts "No way in hell am I doing that' for you?
Trusting someone you are involved with, with your sexual fantasies and secret desires takes balls in the first place, but what if they think you are insane? If they don't 'get it' then they totally don't get you. When you have invested your heart and time into a relationship is there a compromise that can be made or are you destined to forget about your kinky ways?
I could not imagine finding out that my husband was arrested for spanking his monkey with other guys under a bridge in a park.
That is what happened, in a southern town near where I grew up. They met once a month during their lunch hour. Professional men with high paying jobs, formed a group of well dressed circle jerkers in the middle of the day. I guess the spring sun was a nice touch.....wait a minute and a whole lot of ewwwwww! Not that I am judging or anything.
After a sting operation to bring this sperm party to a halt, the fuzz moved in to charge their naked asses. Then they find themselves, full names and all in the newspaper. Yes, they had to go back to work, if they still had employment and face their colleagues. That would be the easy part, facing the family would be a whole other story.