💗 The Kindness You Owe Yourself. Sex'n'fries Podcast: Episode 13

Kindness. It’s one of those words that gets tossed around like confetti — beautiful, well-meaning, but often forgotten when it comes to the person in the mirror.

You determine kindness’s meaning. It’s how you choose to show it. Kindness can be empathy, acceptance, kind gestures, or thoughtfulness. The possibilities are endless — and entirely yours.

We usually think of kindness as something we give to others. A smile. A helping hand. A “you’ve got this” text to a friend.

But what about the one person who actually needs your kindness in order to show it to anyone else — you?

💭 What If We Treated Ourselves Like Someone Worth Caring About?

Imagine if self-care were natural — like brushing your teeth or putting on pants before a Zoom call.

If we truly knew how to nurture ourselves without guilt, the entire self-help section of the bookstore would probably vanish. In its place? A lounge filled with cozy sofas where we could actually relax — guilt-free.

But instead, we often treat self-kindness like an optional add-on. Something we’ll get to after we’ve been “good enough,” productive enough, or emotionally stable enough.

Spoiler alert: that day never really comes.

🌧️ Kindness in the Messy Moments

Being kind to yourself when everything’s sunshine and rainbows is easy. But being kind when you feel miserable? That’s the real work.

It means giving yourself a damn break when you’re down. It means learning from your misery without making it your entire identity. It means understanding that even in the middle of a meltdown, you still deserve softness.

You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a mess.(Preferably with snacks.)

🌸 The Ripple Effect

Here’s the secret: the more you practice self-kindness, the more it spills into everything else.

You’ll have more patience for others. You’ll feel less resentful, less reactive. You’ll stop chasing validation because you’ll already feel seen — by you.

That’s the kind of quiet confidence that makes you magnetic.

🍟 Final Fry Thought

Kindness isn’t a grand gesture. It’s the small, everyday choice to not beat yourself up.

So the next time you’re spiraling, stop. Breathe. Remind yourself that even the messy, moody, pajama-clad version of you deserves love.

Be kind to yourself first — because when you do, kindness to others becomes effortless.