A quote from Dr. Seuss
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.
We are surrounded with self help and inspirational quotes these days that it all can make your head spin. In that note, here is another quote that I have now read to begin my day.
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And, most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. ~Steve Jobs, Founder of Apple
We all search for understanding and knowledge daily. We also will put on a mask to interact with others because we want to be polite, not hurt anyone’s feelings, bow to authority or do not want to expose our true selves because we do not trust.
Unmask the authentic self
Weeks before my mom passed away, I sat beside her, took a deep breath, I said, “I have no problem dealing with everything right now and I have the strength to be here now, but I do not know how I will live without you.” The heavy doses of pain meds had started to take a very noticeable toll on her by then. She looked at me with no expression and stated, “You just do.”
There was nothing left to say right then. Months and now years (going on three), three simple words stuck with me. YOU JUST DO!
I was not sure until recently how I have ‘just do’ everyday.
Again, the self help books that I was diving into were just a distraction and I felt nothing really stuck to be able to help with whatever I needed help with.
That was the big one “What the hell was my problem? What HELP was I looking for? If I was looking for my SELF, how did I lose myself in the first place?
Things that helped me start to heal (my way)
*Stop waiting for motivation. Just do…do it scared, do it true, do it from the heart, do it because you want to.
*Stop being so polite. Have you ever said yes to something you knew was wrong or even dangerous or let someone be an asshole with saying anything? You don’t owe life a compromise, you owe yourself a truthful expression of how you really feel and the hell with everyone and I mean everyone else.
*Trauma in our lives teaches us, we learn lessons of life and sometimes that hard way. Searching for self is not who I was in the past but who I am now and the past played a part in that process.
*Trust your gut. Overthinking is one thing that helps me keep my mask on. What do people think? I have been able to talk myself out of things using the logic of others. When you go in a different direction there is an overwhelming nagging feeling that surfaces. Read the quote from Steve Jobs again.
*Hiding cockroaches under a rug just gives you cockroaches under your rug. You are the problem and you are the solution. Self help has nothing to do with anyone else but you.
*Quotes are great but you need to find own voice.
**Do not hide your shit in a field of flowers. That shit is more the ‘real you’ then all those beautiful, sweet smelly flowers. ~my two cents (Amber)
*Share your story, make connections, dare yourself.
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