This stuff (life) will make you crazy! ~from the crazy broad in the room.

Tea Monthly Just For Me! Love it!

When I started watching Midsomer Murders I was hooked. The show is set in England and tea is always served. So I had picked up the habit to make it a point to take a time out of my day and enjoy a cup of tea. A method of relaxing and time to just sit and enjoy. When I found Sipsby, it was perfect.

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10 Ways To Be A Bombshell

1. Do not wear your pajamas shopping (or slippers).
2. Brush your teeth more than once a day and make sure you have good breath.

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Squeeze yourself into a fantastic sex life

A must workout, one that you can do anywhere and at any time. If you don't, you will be missing out on the wonderful benefits.

Let's go back in time, in 1952, Dr.Arnold Kegel, accidentally found a method for increasing genital strength; exercising the pubococcygeus (PC) muscle. Many therapists (not that I know any personally) believe that pumping up the PC muscle can help enhance sexual pleasure by strengthening orgasm and increasing your awareness of sexual sensations--whether you are a man or woman.
If any muscle is not used it will lose strength and the muscle around the genitals is no different. Find it and flex it

Women can find their PC muscles by sitting on the toilet and starting and stopping the flow of urine. Men can do the same but don't have to sit. This exercise can be done any where, in the line at the grocery store, every where once you have identified the muscle, you can hold and squeeze up to 5 seconds and then continue.
Benefits for women
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I am Coming Out of a Closet

It is actually just my closet, that is crammed full of clothes that I semi like. My husband actually owns more of it than I do.

So this closet I speak of, is actually just me, being a me.
I realized that I needed something, I wanted something, I expected something.

MY universe to deliver!

The countless self help, self development, self confidence..books, webinars, free them, engage with them and opened myself up to; there was a big thing missing in all of it.

the SELF part.

You can read the words and feel the motivation and at the same time I recognized that I was not all in. I was in 'the box' or 'the deep hole'.
You can hear the words, search for them and feel the message that is like a bull horn.
BUT...when you have put yourself in that 'hole' or 'box' all it does is give you some hope but it does NOT give you a ROPE.

Your inner voice
It all keeps you going, even if your 'going' is just making it through a day.

BUT it is not the rope. That you have to make yourself.

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What is your Sexual Attitude? Your Sexitude

What is your sexual attitude? Your sexitude level?

When you think of the act:

Is it a chore? "I have an itch, could you please scratch it for me"

Is it a to-do? "Get the candles, dim the lights, shower, shave, sexy stuff, lotions, massage oil,soft music, wine etc."

Is it a wham bam? "Bend over, it will only take a minute or so"

Is it a cumfest? "Get naked, turn on the porn, get the toys. Mission- orgasm hundreds of times til we blow up" (usually 5 in 20 and done)

Is it user-friendly? "OK kids are out, let's do it"

Surely we all have some of, or even all the above in us somewhere and there are more than are discussed here I am sure.

Are we messed up about sex?
You put a group of people together and tell them to have sexual experiences with each other, but each person has been told, trained, influenced, all in different ways about this subject we claim to know so much about.

We see the same things more now than before, since the Internet. We are exposed to many more ideas and images of sex than ever before. But do we interpret and perceive these images the same?

Where does our sexual attitudes come from? Obviously we are influenced by every day people, our media, our loved ones, definitely the people who raised us, so how much control and opinions are of our own?

In 1938, Alfred Kinsey began gathering case histories of sexual behavior. In 1940, Kinsey and his staff collected over 18,000 interviews, and published Sexual Behavior in the Human Male in 1948 and Sexual Behavior in the Human Female in 1953. With all this research, people started to learn about sexual behavior and where they stood among the masses. Introducing an ongoing exploration of our own sexuality, through out the times of change, have we strayed from asking the questions and just assuming that what we were taught or experienced, is just that of our own norm?
Do we stay comfortable with what we know and leave it at that?

Sex, being a large part of our lives, when you think about it, does it not control how we think, feel, act and portray ourselves to others?
Our sex, as in gender has separated us through eras. Our sexual preferences have us turning from one situation to another. Our sexual attitudes on a personal level influence how we deal with each experience. We could group our attitudes into like minds and bodies, we could bend a little and try the new thing, and we could very well accept those who wish not to journey with us to the new.

We all seem to be doing a lot about nothing, talking very little about what we want to share.
We take our little attitudes and secret desires and sneak them into the corners of our lives, hoping someone will understand, make sense of and play along. It is not common to discuss fantasies with your mate, friends, co-workers, although done, how detailed and truthful are they.
Have you asked your partner questions about sex?
Is there the whole discussion? And if this happens, was this a comfortable thing to share?

As free as we are to express ourselves, do we express ourselves sexually without judgement?
Society as a whole has us dancing through fire as it is, so keep your clothes on, your mind clean and don’t tell us what you are doing behind closed doors unless you are on Oprah and there is a scandal involved.
In this day and time, is there the shush factor? Are we as open- minded as we think we are? Or do we have more to judge than times past?

We live with rules, laws, conditions and personal limits. With this massive subject, look into your own sexual attitude and how does it reflect and affect whom you are. Keep yourself as real and true to you as you possibly can, but allow the changes, the curiosity and enjoyment bring you to new levels of your life without letting go of your identity. Your sexual attitudes should never go stale and become an unhealthy place within your life.
Sometimes with relationships, influence of ones own attitudes can be a good or bad thing. Open your mind and don’t judge those whose attitude differs, remember how the journey has differed from your own.

The 'pin up' girl within you!

Painted lips in red, cherry, pinks or cinnamon, a woman’s pouted soft lips express desire. Wrapped in soft silks, lace, feather boas, pearls and heels. Hair swept up in alluring curls, or draped in wisps on bare shoulders. Cheeks rosé and glowing, lashes embellished viewed in attractive waves. A woman seen by admiring eyes, the look she seeks looking at her, as sexy and beautiful. When a woman feels sexy, feels beautiful, this is a pin up!

Women through time have posed for pictures. The still portrait of their beauty captured for the world to view. As all women have the pin up girl within themselves, most do not share with the world.
Feeling that way, the way that gives them the confidence to show off to the public their own beauty that they possess and could offer. That feeling is usually tainted and most times never nurtured. To express and appreciate what you own as a woman comes from within. As we compare ourselves to other people, guidelines and judgments we no longer possess that confidence and realization that we are sexy, hell we are women!!

As our society and media guide our lives, we also judge others and expect them to judge us. The many magazines we have read on how to apply makeup, how to eat, how to exercise; if these very magazines just told you how to be you, what would they say? We live through the lives and advice of others passing along the news. Keeping it real and controversial our lives forget how to take care of us as individuals without prejudice.

Becoming your own pin up girl: understand you, take away the outside world and realize what you offer. You are a sexy, beautiful and a great person. You are the pin up girl that gives inspiration to yourself so you may share it with the rest of us.

Claim your radiance, concentrate on your attributes, silence your critical voices and whisper this: My body is strong, vibrant and healthy; I am a masterpiece in progress. Love flows through every cell; I love and honor my body unconditionally.

With the tips of all the articles, all the advice, they are reference to changing looks, but you are already beautiful and a pin up girl, how you share it with the world is your choice and your power.

If those walls could careful if they are!

Hot, sexy, steamy, erotic, romantic...are these the words that you would use for your sex life?

Wet, sweaty, hard, exotic...are these the words that you would use for your sex life?

Dark, cozy, normal, over.....are these the words that you would use for your sex life?

Oh the tales we could tell with just a few words. When looking into your own bedroom, are things always changing, exciting or have they become more of a habit, ritual or job?

You may have heard this from yourself or from friends, that life has got in the way of sexual interactions... too busy, too tired, on the road a lot, stressed out, kids are always up, schedules don't match and maybe a hundred more.

Sex is a part of life, not an outside realm from it. Just like doing the dishes, watching TV, going to work and sex. Just hopefully more sexy and naked than the other things you do.

If you are planning on starting a work out program. If you plan on spending more time with your spouse. If you plan on taking up a hobby to relieve stress. The answer is in front of you, don't just "make" time for sex.

Have sex, do sex, make sex, be sex etc. It is a part of human nature and it is healthy for you, good for you, is you. Don't put it on the back burner of life any more.

So here is the point of this sex talk from above. Health benefits of sexual intercourse or activity
  • Sex actually relieves headaches. A lovemaking session can release the tension that restricts blood vessels in the brain.
  • Sex can improve your cardiovascular health (love makes the heart stronger)
  • Sex can improve your sleep (not during though)
  • Sex provides the benefits of exercise. (better than the gym with stinky sweaty people, unless that is what you are into)
  • Sex is helpful in easing pain (stimulation and orgasm lead to the release of corticosteroids and endorphins that increase our pain thresholds, no more excuses then I guess)
  • Sex can improve mood and decrease depression. (always a happy ending)
  • Sex can relieve stress (reaching orgasm as the ultimate release)
So there is my little promotion on sex. It would be a really nice world if there was no sexual frustration. Well that is what I think, plus don't you think it is worth a shot to increase your health just by having more sex, what more can you ask for?