It's my life, I will cry if I want to!

Why do we judge ourselves so harshly over our emotions. If you are in a bad mood, you are a bitch. If you are sad, you are over sensitive. If you are grieving, you are a downer.

This could all be an internal conversation and have no bearing on what other's think at all. 

All the same, we go about our day and are flooded with positivity. In the forms of caring people who just want you to happy. In the form of memes on social media and even in the form of self help books. These books we turn to so we can unlock a miracle of happiness from every page.


For a positive affirmation to be effective, determine first the kind of transformation you want to make, such as an outcome, goal, or mindset that you want to develop. Scientific studies confirm that using affirmations can “rewire” your brain and help you make positive changes in your life. Some people believe that it takes several weeks of repeating a personal affirmation before you see results, so try to continue to say your positive affirmation daily for at least a month. At first, you'll need to make a conscious decision to repeat your affirmations. However, over time they will start to replace the negative thoughts that tend to take over when you aren't monitoring your thoughts. source

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So what happens to these negative thoughts. Should we not explore where they came from? Get up into all the where and whys of it. 

Positive is great, happiness is wonderful but our misery is telling and therapeutic for authentic self awareness.

Yes, I said it! Be a miserable person any time you feel like you need to. This does not mean you can stay there. Someone who pouts all the time is just as annoying as someone who smiles all the time.

It is Okay not to be Okay. Learn from it. Discover your emotions head on, pull up you big girl panties and fix your lipstick. 

It is NEVER too late to be GREAT

Sex'n'Fries - the Podcast. this episode was amazing. It was my first with guests. It went pretty well considering no one had clue what they were doing.

How many times have you heard "Life got in the way" ?
How about "That is way out of my comfort zone!"?

When I was heading towards my fifties, I was stuck in a 'it is what it is and it is how it is'. Let me explain...
I had somehow learned that my age defined me and what I was to do. It was not obvious to me, but looking back, I realize how I was stuck in a predefined path.

The very day I left my mom's house after her funeral, the world seemed closed, claustrophobic and heavy. My world was changing whether I wanted it to or not.
Holy hell, now what?

As I learned to be an orphan, I realized that I was still learning. I realized I also had years and years of experience.

POW right on the side of a head spinning moment.... I already had the tools, smarts and now I needed to step from the comfort zone of 'letting things happen' and expand to another step.

If I knew then what I know now, most likely nothing would be different and I am sure I would not want it to be. All the crap I have lived through is my portfolio, it valuable life lessons that I continuous learned from. I might have failed a few exams here and there but you also learn from that.

I took to the streets and interviewed two amazing women for the podcast (streets: me in my pajamas yakking on the phone in my basement)


Hello, my name is Tracy Hicks. I am an imperfect Wife, Mother, Daughter, Aunt, and Nana. I have a beautiful daughter, and two equally beautiful granddaughters. I turned 50 years young this past January, and haven't looked back. I am an Entrepreneur, and an Associate Market Builder with MONAT Global. I've lived in Ontario my whole life, but love to travel. I am living my best life.

Tracy talked to us about the changes life takes us through but how we start to fit into our own skin.


Hello, my name is Barb O'Dell. I am a Transformational Life Coach. A personal growth junkie from a young age. I have a passion for helping people to overcome obstacles and challenges. I have been married 36 years and have 2 grown children. Currently living in Ontario I am loving life and myself with the help of all I have learned in life so far.

Barb talked to us about how sometimes life lessons can take you on a transforming personal journey and it is not always easy to see your own value in those lessons. Barb also shows us that your greatness arrives at any age and you are the one that gets there.

Thank you to both my guests. I hope you enjoy this episode!

Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast and to share it with everyone you know!

Didn't even know I had a Decolletage!


I did not even know I had a decolletage

De'-col-le-tage if you want to listen to the pronunciation go here.

It does not change a thing. I did not know I had one until I ordered the whole kit

and kaboodle of face and neck creams from Cindy Crawford's secret formula or

something like that. It is actually Meaningful Beauty. I only used it for awhile until it

leaked onto my dresser and the finish came off. Not the products fault, it was cheapish

furniture I guess, but I cancelled the ongoing subscription anyway.

We will use this picture because she looks like she has been taking care of her


Did you know?:

*Your neck and chest - decolletage or cleavage can get crepey as you age.

Sometimes referred to as turkey neck. I do not like the words crepey or turkey neck.

Once you learn how to say decolletage you will just stick with that, adding an accent is

fun too.

How Good Nutrition Equals Great Sexual Health

We all know that we should eat a healthy diet and there are many reasons why we should improve our diets.

Here is another reason for having good nutrition in your life. A good sex life is or may be one of the top reasons for improving your diet.
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Does nutrition make a difference?
Good nerve function, healthy hormone levels and an unobstructed blood flow to the pelvic area are essential to sexual performance.
Healthy foods provide the energy and stamina.
We know there is a connection between mood and food, so getting in the mood and maintaining a healthy sexual appetite, it goes without saying that food can be a great resource.

Sex in a Pan

Sex in a Pan Recipe
Enough let's eat!

1 cup butter, melted
2 cups flour
1 1/2 cups chopped pecans
8 ounces cream cheese, softened
1 cup powdered sugar
1 container Cool Whip
1 package instant chocolate pudding mix
1 package instant vanilla pudding
4 cups cold milk, for making puddings
1 chocolate candy bars or 1 toffee pieces, bar

Directions: Prep Time: 30 mins
Heat oven to 350 degrees.
Make puddings separately according to the directions on box.
Set aside.

Mix cream cheese, powdered sugar and 1 cup of cool whip together and set aside.

Mix melted butter, flour and 1/2 cup chopped pecans together and press into the bottom of a 13 X 9 cake pan.

Put in oven until the crust browns (about 10 minutes).

Take out of oven and let cool slightly.

Layer mixtures over crust starting with cream cheese mixture, chocolate pudding, vanilla pudding. Until mixtures are gone.

Top with the rest of the cool whip, chopped pecans and chocolate shavings from candy bar.
13 X 9 Cake pan with lid so you can take your sex in a pan anywhere!

No-Nonsense Natural Aging Skin Aides

The quest for youth has made millions of dollars for the companies willing to spend time to research products that allow us be more comfortable in our own skin as it ages.

Someone is raking in the dough because we can't stand looking like dough.
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Skin Care for Aging Care
Anti wrinkle cream can cost $10 or $200 (I guess depends how desperate you are)

When you start to develop wrinkles they have cute little names, "smile lines" "Crow's feet" (not so cute)
​It is inevitable that wrinkles will occur as a result to the aging process so get over it.