Listen up, gorgeous: midlife isn’t the time to slow down, fade out, or start apologizing for who you are. No. Midlife is your prime time to strut, sizzle, and shine , and yes — you can do it all while laughing at the chaos around you. Forget what the world says about aging gracefully. Graceful is for ballerinas, not for people who still want wine, fries, and late-night adventures. If you’re over 40, 50, 60, or anywhere in between, it’s time to stop chasing perfection and star

Understanding Midlife Glam Anything can throw you off your game—divorce, death, loss of a career, or even something as subtle as menopause, hair loss, unwanted hair, or mood swings. The list goes on, and all of these can derail your self-confidence. Self-confidence influences how you feel, how you look, and what you expect from yourself. Recently, my daughter was dramatically horrified by the return of 90s fashion. Meanwhile, I spent the 90s in maternity clothes or anything t

The sadness began to dominate, the phobias started to prevail, and a sense of helplessness in my environment set in. Usually people with anxiety disorders hide it well, although in their minds they think everyone can tell. The fear of everyone looking at them when near other people is overwhelming. Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the U.S., affecting 40 million adults in the United States age 18 and older (18% of U.S. population). Anxiety disorders dev

Is the Caregiver in You a Blessing or a Burden? If you’re the one who remembers everyone’s birthdays, checks in when someone’s sick, or can’t relax until everyone else is okay — you might be living your Caregiver archetype . It’s a beautiful thing — the instinct to nurture, to protect, to serve. But it can also quietly drain you dry. When you put others first without a second thought, it’s both a superpower and a warning sign. The same empathy that makes you a safe place for

Self-Help is probably one of the most solicited topics across all mediums. Amongst all the recommendations I've received - here are 10 books that stuck with me and I actually would recommend to someone else feeling lost or unable to move forward from their current chapter. Just remember - self-help books are not a "how-to", they are suggestions to help you find your own path. The 20-Something Guide to Getting it Together by Mary Traina Wellth - How I Built A Life, Not a Resu

Dreams, Diners, and Conversations That Stay With You Have you ever found yourself sitting in a cozy diner in your dreams — the kind with warm light, soft chatter, and the smell of coffee and bacon in the air? You’re across the table from someone you love. Maybe they’re gone, maybe they’re far away. You talk, you laugh, you feel that deep comfort that feels both familiar and surreal. Sometimes, those dream conversations remind us of something powerful — that connection doesn’t

I knew I could do it, well, I know now! Season 2 Episode 4: Holy crap I did a photo shoot! Is That Really Me? So, there I was — 55, standing in front of a camera, wearing lingerie I hadn’t touched in years. Was it crazy? Absolutely not. Was it terrifying? Oh, yes. But also… exhilarating, empowering, and honestly, life-affirming. Sharing my photos with a few people, I realized: this experience wasn’t just about pictures. It was about reclaiming my body, my confidence, and my j

It all started a few years ago. My sister did a boudoir shoot and we started to look for other photographers. I have followed studios on social media for years. Yes years. In the episode about boudoir and the connection to self confidence I chat with a few photographers and get their perspective on the business of boudoir photography and how they feel about building self confidence with their clients Listen here Recently I received a promotional text from a local studio. Wi

Confession Time: I’ve Ignored Affirmations Most likely, I’ve tossed affirmatives to the side — thinking, “Ugh, who has time for this fluff?” They seemed like a waste of my time. Yet, every once in a while, I jump on the bandwagon and douse myself in them. And you know what? They work. But maybe not in the way the self-help books promised. The Affirmatives I Actually Use Forget the soft, sugary lines you find in every Instagram post. My affirmatives have attitude: “You can do

Our Childhoods Shape Us We carry our childhoods with us — the good, the bad, and the messy in-between. In this episode, I get personal. I share stories from my own childhood struggles — experiences that weren’t always easy, and moments that still echo in my adult life. The truth is, those challenges helped shape the person I am today . Facing the Past to Build the Present Acknowledging your past isn’t about blame or shame. It’s about understanding: How your early experiences

Toss the Negative Thoughts Away Take all the negative thoughts about yourself and throw them out. Seriously — you don’t need that crap anymore. I often wonder how young people navigate the constant noise of social media, advertising, and society while trying to maintain a positive self-image. Back in the 80s, it was hard enough. I struggled with comparing myself to models and celebrities — wondering if anyone would ever see me as enough . When Self-Image Is Tested In my late

Thirty. Flirty. And Thriving.... I wish. We all know the mantra from 13 going on 30. But what they don't mention is that as your 30th birthday approaches you are actually thinking: "Thirty, Hurty & Crying". Its about this time that it hits you that this is life, you are NEVER going to figure it out, no-one ever has. While no-one seems to have figured out the secret to life, we have found many ways to work on self-care and self-growth so that we may actually enjoy this planet

As I gaze into the mirror, I can’t help but wonder—how did time fly by so fast? The woman staring back at me has a few more lines, softer skin, and a body that tells the story of years lived fully. But inside, I still feel like her —that curious, adventurous, sometimes reckless version of me who believed the world was wide open. It’s funny how the outside changes, but the inside ? She’s still ready for a little trouble. It’s a common midlife realization—our bodies age, but ou

The answer to self-sabotage is… not to self-sabotage yourself. Sounds simple, right? Years of research, hundreds of dollars in self-help books, and a personal library of motivational audiobooks led me to that mind-blowing revelation. I could’ve saved myself a fortune if I’d just slipped on those damn red heels sooner. (Okay, in the podcast I said they were six inches, but come on—three inches feels  like six when it’s me in them. Only talking about shoes though, let’s be clea

Her wheelchair didn’t fit easily between the table and the kitchen island. I finished helping her get ready for the day — the same routine we’d shared for months — brushing her hair, fixing her breakfast, and making sure the morning ran as smoothly as possible. That day, though, I was bursting with excitement. I had something to show her. The Mango. My new car.Bright. Bold. Orange. I couldn’t believe that I  — the woman who hated attention and proudly claimed the title of “in

Kindness. It’s one of those words that gets tossed around like confetti — beautiful, well-meaning, but often forgotten when it comes to the person in the mirror. You determine kindness’s meaning. It’s how you  choose to show it. Kindness can be empathy, acceptance, kind gestures, or thoughtfulness. The possibilities are endless — and entirely yours. We usually think of kindness as something we give  to others. A smile. A helping hand. A “you’ve got this” text to a friend. But

Broken by Jenney Lawson on Audible . As I started back into my gym routine, I decided to bring a friend — not a real, sweaty workout partner (those people scare me), but Jenny Lawson’s Broken (in the Best Possible Way)  on Audible. There I was, pedaling away on a stationary bike, sweating like a champ, while laughing at the absurd, raw, and painfully relatable moments of Jenny’s life. If anyone was watching, they probably thought I was losing it — grinning one minute, sniff

I think I have always had a stock of lotions tucked away in a cabinet somewhere, but lately… it’s borderline obscene. Every time I open a drawer or peek into a shelf, I see rows upon rows of bottles — body lotions, face creams, specialty potions for every conceivable part of me. The thing is, it takes forever  to use up a single container. And yes, there’s a very real possibility that if I passed this collection on, one person couldn’t possibly make a dent before it expired.

Why Do Women Need to Feel Beautiful? Every day, we’re bombarded with images of women that set unrealistic standards for beauty. From magazines and billboards to social media feeds, we’re constantly told what sexy looks like. Professional models, filters, and Photoshop have created ideals so polished they’re nearly impossible to match—and yet we try. It’s no wonder many women question their bodies: “Am I enough?” “Do I measure up?” The beauty and cosmetic industries make it wo

Can You Ever Be Ready? Interviews. Boudoir. Sharing your inner thoughts with the world. Can you ever truly feel ready for these things? Totally… maybe. But for me? Not so much. If I over-prepare or plan, my anxiety sneaks in, and suddenly the idea of stepping into the spotlight feels like running a marathon in flip-flops. At that point, Netflix looks a lot  more appealing. Sometimes, though, bravery shows up unannounced. You feel it in your gut, a rush that says, “Just do it.