Rediscover your sexy confidence after 40! Learn how to boost body confidence, embrace pleasure, and feel empowered in and out of the bedroom — no apologies required.

This episode dives into how to find peace, joy, and maybe even a little enlightenment… all while juggling life, love, and, yes, a few extra fries.” “And then there’s those little moments that remind you you’re in midlife mode . Like, the other day I walked into my kitchen, opened the fridge, stared at it for two minutes, and completely forgot why I was even there. So what did I do? Grabbed a handful of fries from last night’s takeout, closed the fridge, and called it a win.”

Sometimes healing finds us when we’re not even looking. Join me on an unexpected journey of self-discovery — one that began with a funeral and ended with finding forgotten pieces of myself. Some journeys don’t start with a plan.They start with a phone call, a plane ticket, and a quiet ache that settles somewhere deep in your chest. I didn’t know this trip — this goodbye — would also be a beginning. I was traveling to my grandmother’s funeral, but I was also traveling back to

Is the Caregiver in You a Blessing or a Burden? If you’re the one who remembers everyone’s birthdays, checks in when someone’s sick, or can’t relax until everyone else is okay — you might be living your Caregiver archetype . It’s a beautiful thing — the instinct to nurture, to protect, to serve. But it can also quietly drain you dry. When you put others first without a second thought, it’s both a superpower and a warning sign. The same empathy that makes you a safe place for

Listen now Belief, Faith, and the Messy Middle This episode — and this post — is a reflection on believing in something. Not necessarily God, not necessarily religion, but something  bigger than us. The kind of belief that anchors you when life feels uncertain — or when you’re sitting in your car trying to remember why you walked into Target in the first place. I didn’t grow up with a consistent religion. There wasn’t one faith that shaped our home or dictated how we prayed,

Dreams, Diners, and Conversations That Stay With You Have you ever found yourself sitting in a cozy diner in your dreams — the kind with warm light, soft chatter, and the smell of coffee and bacon in the air? You’re across the table from someone you love. Maybe they’re gone, maybe they’re far away. You talk, you laugh, you feel that deep comfort that feels both familiar and surreal. Sometimes, those dream conversations remind us of something powerful — that connection doesn’t

This episode was easier to do than I anticipated—filled with stories about my vagina (AI rant not included). At first, I thought it would be fun to use AI to generate a title for this episode. According to AI, my vagina is a “sensitive subject” and it offered no suggestions. When I tried again for the blog, it flagged my vagina as “offensive content.” With everything out there, how is the word vagina  offensive? Love your body Love Your Body This episode dives deep into women

I knew I could do it, well, I know now! Season 2 Episode 4: Holy crap I did a photo shoot! Is That Really Me? So, there I was — 55, standing in front of a camera, wearing lingerie I hadn’t touched in years. Was it crazy? Absolutely not. Was it terrifying? Oh, yes. But also… exhilarating, empowering, and honestly, life-affirming. Sharing my photos with a few people, I realized: this experience wasn’t just about pictures. It was about reclaiming my body, my confidence, and my j

Confession Time: I’ve Ignored Affirmations Most likely, I’ve tossed affirmatives to the side — thinking, “Ugh, who has time for this fluff?” They seemed like a waste of my time. Yet, every once in a while, I jump on the bandwagon and douse myself in them. And you know what? They work. But maybe not in the way the self-help books promised. The Affirmatives I Actually Use Forget the soft, sugary lines you find in every Instagram post. My affirmatives have attitude: “You can do

Our Childhoods Shape Us We carry our childhoods with us — the good, the bad, and the messy in-between. In this episode, I get personal. I share stories from my own childhood struggles — experiences that weren’t always easy, and moments that still echo in my adult life. The truth is, those challenges helped shape the person I am today . Facing the Past to Build the Present Acknowledging your past isn’t about blame or shame. It’s about understanding: How your early experiences

Toss the Negative Thoughts Away Take all the negative thoughts about yourself and throw them out. Seriously — you don’t need that crap anymore. I often wonder how young people navigate the constant noise of social media, advertising, and society while trying to maintain a positive self-image. Back in the 80s, it was hard enough. I struggled with comparing myself to models and celebrities — wondering if anyone would ever see me as enough . When Self-Image Is Tested In my late

What We Don’t Owe Anyone Being shamed, guilt-tripped, or emotionally manipulated does not create debt . Holding someone emotionally hostage to force them to act—or act the way you think they should—is not a thing . You and I owe nothing  when it comes to emotional currency. Not our time, not our energy, and certainly not our peace. This episode reflects on life lessons that sneaked into a current situation, reminding me (and you) that: “You do you, and I will do me.” …isn’t j

As I gaze into the mirror, I can’t help but wonder—how did time fly by so fast? The woman staring back at me has a few more lines, softer skin, and a body that tells the story of years lived fully. But inside, I still feel like her —that curious, adventurous, sometimes reckless version of me who believed the world was wide open. It’s funny how the outside changes, but the inside ? She’s still ready for a little trouble. It’s a common midlife realization—our bodies age, but ou

The answer to self-sabotage is… not to self-sabotage yourself. Sounds simple, right? Years of research, hundreds of dollars in self-help books, and a personal library of motivational audiobooks led me to that mind-blowing revelation. I could’ve saved myself a fortune if I’d just slipped on those damn red heels sooner. (Okay, in the podcast I said they were six inches, but come on—three inches feels  like six when it’s me in them. Only talking about shoes though, let’s be clea

Her wheelchair didn’t fit easily between the table and the kitchen island. I finished helping her get ready for the day — the same routine we’d shared for months — brushing her hair, fixing her breakfast, and making sure the morning ran as smoothly as possible. That day, though, I was bursting with excitement. I had something to show her. The Mango. My new car.Bright. Bold. Orange. I couldn’t believe that I  — the woman who hated attention and proudly claimed the title of “in

Kindness. It’s one of those words that gets tossed around like confetti — beautiful, well-meaning, but often forgotten when it comes to the person in the mirror. You determine kindness’s meaning. It’s how you  choose to show it. Kindness can be empathy, acceptance, kind gestures, or thoughtfulness. The possibilities are endless — and entirely yours. We usually think of kindness as something we give  to others. A smile. A helping hand. A “you’ve got this” text to a friend. But

I think I have always had a stock of lotions tucked away in a cabinet somewhere, but lately… it’s borderline obscene. Every time I open a drawer or peek into a shelf, I see rows upon rows of bottles — body lotions, face creams, specialty potions for every conceivable part of me. The thing is, it takes forever  to use up a single container. And yes, there’s a very real possibility that if I passed this collection on, one person couldn’t possibly make a dent before it expired.

Why Do Women Need to Feel Beautiful? Every day, we’re bombarded with images of women that set unrealistic standards for beauty. From magazines and billboards to social media feeds, we’re constantly told what sexy looks like. Professional models, filters, and Photoshop have created ideals so polished they’re nearly impossible to match—and yet we try. It’s no wonder many women question their bodies: “Am I enough?” “Do I measure up?” The beauty and cosmetic industries make it wo

Can You Ever Be Ready? Interviews. Boudoir. Sharing your inner thoughts with the world. Can you ever truly feel ready for these things? Totally… maybe. But for me? Not so much. If I over-prepare or plan, my anxiety sneaks in, and suddenly the idea of stepping into the spotlight feels like running a marathon in flip-flops. At that point, Netflix looks a lot  more appealing. Sometimes, though, bravery shows up unannounced. You feel it in your gut, a rush that says, “Just do it.

People Are Not Flawed Products have flaws. They are made by humans and sometimes the design isn’t perfect. But people? People are not broken. We aren’t put together by others. We are made from our experiences, our learning, and the world around us.  Our feelings—joy, sadness, confusion, hurt—are all part of being human. They don’t make us flawed; they make us whole. Put Yourself Together You are physical, mental, and spiritual. Every moment, every emotion, every reaction buil