Understanding Midlife Glam Anything can throw you off your game—divorce, death, loss of a career, or even something as subtle as menopause, hair loss, unwanted hair, or mood swings. The list goes on, and all of these can derail your self-confidence. Self-confidence influences how you feel, how you look, and what you expect from yourself. Recently, my daughter was dramatically horrified by the return of 90s fashion. Meanwhile, I spent the 90s in maternity clothes or anything t

It all started a few years ago. My sister did a boudoir shoot and we started to look for other photographers. I have followed studios on social media for years. Yes years. In the episode about boudoir and the connection to self confidence I chat with a few photographers and get their perspective on the business of boudoir photography and how they feel about building self confidence with their clients Listen here Recently I received a promotional text from a local studio. Wi

Confession Time: I’ve Ignored Affirmations Most likely, I’ve tossed affirmatives to the side — thinking, “Ugh, who has time for this fluff?” They seemed like a waste of my time. Yet, every once in a while, I jump on the bandwagon and douse myself in them. And you know what? They work. But maybe not in the way the self-help books promised. The Affirmatives I Actually Use Forget the soft, sugary lines you find in every Instagram post. My affirmatives have attitude: “You can do

Thirty. Flirty. And Thriving.... I wish. We all know the mantra from 13 going on 30. But what they don't mention is that as your 30th birthday approaches you are actually thinking: "Thirty, Hurty & Crying". Its about this time that it hits you that this is life, you are NEVER going to figure it out, no-one ever has. While no-one seems to have figured out the secret to life, we have found many ways to work on self-care and self-growth so that we may actually enjoy this planet

What We Don’t Owe Anyone Being shamed, guilt-tripped, or emotionally manipulated does not create debt . Holding someone emotionally hostage to force them to act—or act the way you think they should—is not a thing . You and I owe nothing  when it comes to emotional currency. Not our time, not our energy, and certainly not our peace. This episode reflects on life lessons that sneaked into a current situation, reminding me (and you) that: “You do you, and I will do me.” …isn’t j

The answer to self-sabotage is… not to self-sabotage yourself. Sounds simple, right? Years of research, hundreds of dollars in self-help books, and a personal library of motivational audiobooks led me to that mind-blowing revelation. I could’ve saved myself a fortune if I’d just slipped on those damn red heels sooner. (Okay, in the podcast I said they were six inches, but come on—three inches feels  like six when it’s me in them. Only talking about shoes though, let’s be clea

Why Do Women Need to Feel Beautiful? Every day, we’re bombarded with images of women that set unrealistic standards for beauty. From magazines and billboards to social media feeds, we’re constantly told what sexy looks like. Professional models, filters, and Photoshop have created ideals so polished they’re nearly impossible to match—and yet we try. It’s no wonder many women question their bodies: “Am I enough?” “Do I measure up?” The beauty and cosmetic industries make it wo

Can You Ever Be Ready? Interviews. Boudoir. Sharing your inner thoughts with the world. Can you ever truly feel ready for these things? Totally… maybe. But for me? Not so much. If I over-prepare or plan, my anxiety sneaks in, and suddenly the idea of stepping into the spotlight feels like running a marathon in flip-flops. At that point, Netflix looks a lot  more appealing. Sometimes, though, bravery shows up unannounced. You feel it in your gut, a rush that says, “Just do it.

Fifty seemed like a never number . When you’re in your twenties, it doesn’t exist. And then… suddenly, there it is. Right in your face. Like someone spun you around and you are standing in front of the 50 door . All you have to do is wake up and walk through it . Fifty has so many perks—but until you get there, they are a well-kept secret. A Fifty-Year-Old Walks Into a Bar A fifty-year-old woman walks into a bar… and the rest is history. This episode explores what turning 50

We’ve all heard the jokes—men worrying about baldness, women stressing over the size of their butt in a new pair of jeans. But when it comes to advice about self-confidence, awareness, and body image, most articles are directed at women. So, what about men? Would the same guidance benefit them in the same way? Do men need their own pep talks, different from the advice often aimed at women? Facing Fears and Body Image Challenges One common suggestion for improving self-image i

Let’s be honest — “self-possession” sounds like something out of a ghost show. I know, I thought spirits possessed me too. 👻 But no, this kind of possession is about something far more empowering — it’s the ability to control your behavior, emotions, and responses  no matter what’s happening around you. It’s self-command , willpower , and that grounded sense of “I got this” that nobody can take away. And in a world where every post, email, and commercial tells you to love yo

With lips painted in shades of red, cherry, pink, or cinnamon, a woman's softly pouted lips convey desire. Adorned with silks, lace, feather boas, pearls, and heels, with hair in glamorous curls or delicately draped over bare shoulders, her rosy cheeks and beautifully enhanced lashes complete the look. Viewed by admiring eyes, the reflection she desires embodies sexiness and beauty. When a woman feels confident and stunning, she embodies her inner pin-up girl . Throughout his

“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.”— Dr. Seuss We’re surrounded by self-help quotes these days — scrolling through social media can feel like an endless parade of positivity with a side of pressure. There’s “Live your best life,” “Choose joy,”  and “Good vibes only.” But let’s be honest — it can all make your head spin. Then, there’s this one from Steve Jobs: “Your time is limited, so don't waste it livi