💋 Faking It Is a Waste of Time! Sex'n'fries Podcast Episode 5

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.” — Dr. Seuss

We live in a world overflowing with self-help quotes and motivational mantras. Scroll through social media, and you’ll see: “Live your best life,” “Choose joy,” “Good vibes only.”

Yet, despite all the inspiration, many of us are still putting on masks—pretending to be fine when we’re not.

Even Steve Jobs reminded us:

“Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma…Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your inner voice. Dare to follow your heart and intuition.”

Powerful, yes. But living it? That’s the hard part.

🎭 Unmasking the Authentic Self

We fake confidence, faking being okay, faking through conversations because vulnerability feels risky. We tell ourselves it’s for others, to be polite, to avoid discomfort—but really, it’s about shielding ourselves from being truly seen.

I remember sitting beside my mom weeks before she passed. I said,

“I have no problem dealing with everything right now, and I have the strength to be here…but I don’t know how I’ll live without you.”

She looked at me and said simply,

“You just do.”

Three words. Simple. Profound. Life-altering.

🌱 Finding What’s Real

After she passed, I threw myself into self-help books, podcasts, and motivational noise. Nothing resonated.

Then it hit me: I wasn’t seeking advice. I was seeking myself.

I had been faking my way through healing—following other people’s formulas instead of feeling my own path.

💥 How to Start Healing Your Way

• Stop waiting for motivation — just begin.

• Do it scared — embrace discomfort as growth.

• Do it messy — perfection is a trap.

• Do it honestly — from your heart, not expectations.

• Do it because you want to — not because someone said you should.

Faking it might get you through a moment. But it will never get you to yourself.

Final Fry Thought 🍟

Authenticity isn’t a destination—it’s a practice. Show up messy, scared, joyful, sad. Show up real. Because the only way to live fully is to stop pretending and start being who you are—fear, flaws, and all.

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