💋 Faking It Is a Waste of Time! Sex'n'fries Podcast Episode 5

“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.”— Dr. Seuss

We’re surrounded by self-help quotes these days — scrolling through social media can feel like an endless parade of positivity with a side of pressure. There’s “Live your best life,” “Choose joy,” and “Good vibes only.”

But let’s be honest — it can all make your head spin.

Then, there’s this one from Steve Jobs:

“Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma – living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your inner voice. Dare to follow your heart and intuition.”

Powerful words, right? Yet, even with all that inspiration, many of us still find ourselves putting on a mask — pretending to be “fine” when we’re not.

🎭 Unmasking the Authentic Self

We fake confidence, we fake being okay, and we fake our way through conversations because it’s easier than being too real. We tell ourselves we’re protecting others, avoiding awkwardness, or being polite — but really, we’re protecting ourselves from vulnerability.

I remember sitting beside my mom weeks before she passed. I took a deep breath and said,

“I have no problem dealing with everything right now, and I have the strength to be here…but I don’t know how I’ll live without you.”

The pain medication had dulled her usual expression, but she looked at me and said quietly,

“You just do.”

Three simple words. You just do.

They’ve stayed with me — years later — through grief, fear, and every “fake it till you make it” moment I’ve ever tried to pull off.

🌱 Finding What’s Real

After she passed, I threw myself into self-help books, motivational podcasts, and a lot of “find your purpose” noise. But nothing stuck.

It finally hit me — maybe I wasn’t looking for help. Maybe I was looking for myself.

I had been faking my way through healing. Trying to follow everyone else’s advice, when what I really needed was to feel my own way through it.

💥 Things That Actually Helped Me Start to Heal (My Way)

✨ Stop waiting for motivation — just do it.

✨ Do it scared.✨ Do it messy.

✨ Do it honestly.✨ Do it from the heart.

✨ Do it because you want to — not because you think you should.

The truth? Faking it might get you through a moment. But it will never get you to yourself.

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